10 ways to start taking control

At first glance, it would seem that Attention Deficit Disorder (ADD) and positive thinking have nothing to do with one another. But many people with ADD develop negative thinking patterns because they become frustrated by their challenges and frequent feelings of being overwhelmed. This negative outlook then makes it even harder for them to manage those challenges and move forward.

Practicing positive thinking allows people with ADD to focus on our strengths and accomplishments, which increases happiness and motivation. This, in turn, allows them to spend more time making progress, and less time feeling down and stuck. The following tips provide practical suggestions that you can use to help you shift into more positive thinking patterns:

1. Take Good Care of Yourself !!

When you are eating well, exercising, and getting enough rest. It’s much easier to be positive. If you cannot get to the gym or maybe it is not possible for you even to get outside.You can try learning how to do handstands.They can be done indoors with little or no equipment.

2. Remind Yourself of the Things You Are Grateful For

Taking just 60 seconds a day to stop and appreciate the good things will make a huge difference. When you are constantly reminding yourself of the things that are right in life, stresses and challenges don’t seem quite as bad .The glass is half full or half empty depending on if your perspective is positive or negative.At the end of the day what you faced with is the way it is.Any thing else is your judgment filter being applied.Focus on the negative parts of a situation and all you will get is more negativity.Focus on the positive parts and you will feel better.Your quality of life will improve and help you gain momentum to move onward and upward.

Only if you judge it as bad will life  suck.

3. Look for the Proof Instead of Making Assumptions

Don’t waste time worrying that you did something wrong unless you have proof that there is something to worry about.. If you have a fear that a friend or family member’s bad mood is due to something you did, or that your co-workers are secretly gossiping about you when you turn your back, speak up and ask them. A fear of not being liked or accepted sometimes leads us to assume that we know what others are thinking, but our fears are usually not reality

4. Refrain from Using Absolutes

Have you ever told a partner “You’re ALWAYS late!” or complained to a friend “You NEVER call me!”? Thinking and speaking in absolutes like ‘always’ and ‘never’ makes the situation seem worse than it is, and programs your brain into believing that certain people are incapable of delivering.

5. Try to Control Negative Thoughts

If you notice  negative thoughts creeping in, detach from them, witness them, and let them go.Your thoughts can’t hold any power over you if you don’t allow them to . Take a DEEP breath in through your nose and release the breath through your mouth and think “Breath in” as you breathe in and “Breath out” as you breathe out. Do it as many times as it takes to calm your mind

6. Step on the “ANTs”

In his book “Change Your Brain, Change your life“, Dr. Daniel Amen talks about “ANTs” – Automatic Negative Thoughts. These are the bad thoughts that are usually reactionary, like “Those people are laughing, they must be talking about me,” or “The boss wants to see me? It must be bad!” When you notice these thoughts, realize that they are nothing more than ANTs and squash them!

Try not to make judgments or have expectations of people or situations.

As Hamlet said   ‘There is nothing either good or bad, but thinking makes it so.’ Things happen.By them selves they are neither good or bad, it is only through our judgment filter  that they become good or bad , ugly or pretty When you are able to not judge things as good or bad the emotions of this judgment are no longer a burden so you can live lighter and freer . You can’t control others or life but you can control how you react.

7. Practice Lovin’, Touchin’ & Squeezin’ (Your Friends and Family)

One research study on this subject had a waitress touch some of her customers on the arm as she handed them their checks. She received higher tips from these customers than from the ones she didn’t touch!  Positive physical contact with friends, loved ones, and even pets, is an instant pick-me-up.You don’t have to be an expert to know the benefits of a good hug

8. Become More Social. Get Out Of  The House More Often.

Surround yourself with healthy, happy people, and their positive energy will affect you in a positive way! By increasing social activity, you decrease loneliness

9.  Become a Volunteer For Something, Or Help Someone Who needs Help

The more positive energy you put out into the world, the more you will receive in return. You can volunteer your time, your money, or your resources. Everyone feels good after helping.

Kiva is a non-profit, internet based organization which allows you to lend as little as $25 to a specific low-income entrepreneur in the developing world. You choose who to lend to – whether a baker in Afghanistan, a goat herder in Uganda, a farmer in Peru, a restaurateur in Cambodia, or a tailor in Iraq – and as they repay the loan, you get your money back.

10. Use Breathing to Stop Your Mind Chasing Itself In Circles

Rumination is like hyper-focus on something negative. If you find yourself ruminating, a great way to stop it is to interrupt the pattern and force yourself to do something completely different. . Try changing your physical environment – go for a walk or a run. Do some body weight exercises.You could also call a friend, pick up a book, or turn on some music. It’s never productive, to ruminate  because it’s not rational or solution-oriented, it’s just excessive worry. Start to become aware of your thoughts so  that you can do something about them.Keep a little thought awareness notebook ,make a check mark in it every time you feel your self getting upset.This will help you to be aware when you are getting upset and when you realize frustration or anger is starting to affect you, Breathe..

Say to your self as you breathe in and out,  “Breath in, Breath out.Breath in,Breath out”..As many times as it takes to get calm..

Keep trying, It is not easy to do,especially in the beginning. It takes practice to focus on only your breathing.  Keep trying it will get easier with practice and you will start to feel much happier..

Life is a series of natural and spontaneous changes. Don’t resist them – that only creates sorrow. Let reality be reality. Let things flow naturally forward in whatever way they like.” – Lao-Tzu

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